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Post by Lofty on Jul 16, 2021 18:14:41 GMT
Handed my notice in an hour ago. Feels fucking great. Almost had a breakdown last year, this year has been shit and I feared another one coming, topped it off today my finding out someone has put in a complaint against me... thought of Johnny Paycheck and I don't need this shit. May get signed off for my notice period as well, depends how many of my bridges I want to burn and how much of a cunt I want to be. There is no job that pays well enough if it impacts your health. Good choice and I hope you feel better for doing it, I'm sure you will.
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Post by Hobhead on Jul 16, 2021 19:35:38 GMT
Handed my notice in an hour ago. Feels fucking great. Almost had a breakdown last year, this year has been shit and I feared another one coming, topped it off today my finding out someone has put in a complaint against me... thought of Johnny Paycheck and I don't need this shit. May get signed off for my notice period as well, depends how many of my bridges I want to burn and how much of a cunt I want to be. Got anything lined up?
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Post by Hoochy on Jul 16, 2021 22:02:08 GMT
Stress is a killer man, always better to be happy. That's the biggest lesson I've learnt over the last 12-15 months. Work stress will rot through every part of your life, bad enough when it's on you but when it affects those around you it's gone too far. At its worst last year after months of long hours, little sleep, working weekends and holidays after one horrendous day I broke down completely and just wandered around the house aimlessly for an hour. A few days later I almost lashed out at my 3 year old and I had to call for help. I was disgusted at myself it had come to that. 40 people are in my team at work and 6 have signed off with stress over the last 6 months, 2 good line managers left, one person walked out, 2 others have had to take medication.... For what, pushing buttons on a keyboard? It's not like a genuine illness or really shitty life situation to be in. For anyone else suffering with stress, don't suffer through it if you know it's happening. Guy at my work in the finance department killed himself about 5 years ago due to it. A lad I play cricket with gave up his stressy office job and is on the bins happy as Larry. Walks miles a day in all weathers and has a laugh with the lads. He was fortunate that he was able to afford to do that as his kids were grown up and house manageable. Some people do feel stuck because they have direct debits etc. It's a vicious cycle. I think you've done the right thing by breaking the cycle and forcing change.
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Post by Hobhead on Jul 17, 2021 6:53:53 GMT
There is no good reason to ever use the word ‘cuisine’.
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Post by Hoochy on Jul 17, 2021 11:15:40 GMT
There is no good reason to ever use the word ‘cuisine’. Related, I can't stand it when people say something like 'scran' either. Unnecessary.
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Post by Hoochy on Jul 17, 2021 11:16:20 GMT
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Post by Hoochy on Jul 17, 2021 11:24:18 GMT
These lads are completely on the wind up. They're having a ball knowing how much piss they're going to boil.
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Post by Neshead on Jul 17, 2021 11:51:01 GMT
These lads are completely on the wind up. They're having a ball knowing how much piss they're going to boil. Attention. Seeking. Cunts. Worlds full of them.
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Post by Hobhead on Jul 17, 2021 11:53:33 GMT
These lads are completely on the wind up. They're having a ball knowing how much piss they're going to boil. Even if it’s deliberate and they come out and admit I’m committed now. I fucking despise them.
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Post by mikehunt on Jul 17, 2021 16:25:06 GMT
Stress is a killer man, always better to be happy. That's the biggest lesson I've learnt over the last 12-15 months. Work stress will rot through every part of your life, bad enough when it's on you but when it affects those around you it's gone too far. At its worst last year after months of long hours, little sleep, working weekends and holidays after one horrendous day I broke down completely and just wandered around the house aimlessly for an hour. A few days later I almost lashed out at my 3 year old and I had to call for help. I was disgusted at myself it had come to that. 40 people are in my team at work and 6 have signed off with stress over the last 6 months, 2 good line managers left, one person walked out, 2 others have had to take medication.... For what, pushing buttons on a keyboard? It's not like a genuine illness or really shitty life situation to be in. For anyone else suffering with stress, don't suffer through it if you know it's happening. Guy at my work in the finance department killed himself about 5 years ago due to it. Three interviews next week precisely because of this. I’m a director, been there years and I know what I’m doing, I’m good at it. New director for a different department treats me like a two year old in and like I know shit. I’m not the only one either. I’m a grown man and I can’t take it, terrible isn’t it? I’ll end up like your finance guy if it goes on much longer. I’m in a pretty niche industry and the jobs I have interviews for mean buying a flat and living away from home in the week or a 90 minute commute each way. Where I am now it’s an hour bike ride each which is great for my head. Thirty, forty years ago a man could have an ordinary job, wife work part time and have a nice house, foreign holiday and what have you. These days houses cost a fucking packet and you need to pay a fortune for your kids to go to university so they can get a job that pays enough for them to keep their heads above water. It’s no wonder there is so much stress and suicide.
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Post by Dick on Jul 20, 2021 9:12:45 GMT
Handed my notice in an hour ago. Feels fucking great. Almost had a breakdown last year, this year has been shit and I feared another one coming, topped it off today my finding out someone has put in a complaint against me... thought of Johnny Paycheck and I don't need this shit. May get signed off for my notice period as well, depends how many of my bridges I want to burn and how much of a cunt I want to be. Got anything lined up? Not hard and fast - signed up to specialist agencies, putting the feelers out amongst contacts, also bought a few online courses as going to use a bit of time to refresh skills. Looking at a mix of part time / contract and freelancing as I've been in the my current place for 9 years and gone stale. My mrs runs an online shop on Etsy as a side business a print-on-demand service, it made £3k last year. Not a huge amount, but might help her dedicate some more time and effort into it as there is potential there.
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Post by Hobhead on Jul 20, 2021 9:15:44 GMT
Not hard and fast - signed up to specialist agencies, putting the feelers out amongst contacts, also bought a few online courses as going to use a bit of time to refresh skills. Looking at a mix of part time / contract and freelancing as I've been in the my current place for 9 years and gone stale. My mrs runs an online shop on Etsy as a side business a print-on-demand service, it made £3k last year. Not a huge amount, but might help her dedicate some more time and effort into it as there is potential there. Let me know if you fancy a career change.
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Post by Dick on Jul 20, 2021 9:32:28 GMT
That's the biggest lesson I've learnt over the last 12-15 months. Work stress will rot through every part of your life, bad enough when it's on you but when it affects those around you it's gone too far. At its worst last year after months of long hours, little sleep, working weekends and holidays after one horrendous day I broke down completely and just wandered around the house aimlessly for an hour. A few days later I almost lashed out at my 3 year old and I had to call for help. I was disgusted at myself it had come to that. 40 people are in my team at work and 6 have signed off with stress over the last 6 months, 2 good line managers left, one person walked out, 2 others have had to take medication.... For what, pushing buttons on a keyboard? It's not like a genuine illness or really shitty life situation to be in. For anyone else suffering with stress, don't suffer through it if you know it's happening. Guy at my work in the finance department killed himself about 5 years ago due to it. Three interviews next week precisely because of this. I’m a director, been there years and I know what I’m doing, I’m good at it. New director for a different department treats me like a two year old in and like I know shit. I’m not the only one either. I’m a grown man and I can’t take it, terrible isn’t it? I’ll end up like your finance guy if it goes on much longer. I’m in a pretty niche industry and the jobs I have interviews for mean buying a flat and living away from home in the week or a 90 minute commute each way. Where I am now it’s an hour bike ride each which is great for my head. Thirty, forty years ago a man could have an ordinary job, wife work part time and have a nice house, foreign holiday and what have you. These days houses cost a fucking packet and you need to pay a fortune for your kids to go to university so they can get a job that pays enough for them to keep their heads above water. It’s no wonder there is so much stress and suicide. My uncle killed himself, not just stress at work circumstances - was a police officer, left his job when he inherited about £500k and blew it all through being taken advantage of by dodgy, unscrupulous 'businessmen'. 10 years after leaving the force his family had left him and there was nothing for him to go back to as he was in his late 50s, so blew his head off with a shotgun, which was left to him in the inheritance as well. It's a different country where firearms at the time were legal. One thing that we all struggled with after was we are a big family - he was one of 6 siblings and there were many others in the extended family - and we all could have helped in some way to get him back on his feet if we could. That was 15 years ago. Today is we're still finding out things that were going on. Things that caused the family to fall apart, e.g there's things I found out from a family member on a trip to that country 2 years ago that my dad - my uncle's brother - doesn't know as it would devastate him. People used to associate suicide with a certain type of person. But as more people are stressed / depressed / anxious due to the pressure and expectation of society it sends them down that path. My uncle had a family, a respectable job - wasn't a bad person at all. He was taken advantage of massively, made some very poor decisions and fucked it all up. I'm 40 next year. We moved house a few months ago and we realised just how much crap we have. Literal crap - things we really could live without. Unfortunately life and culture has lead us to believe you need this, you need that, you got to get one of those, your kids need this etc. It's no surprise stress is related to trying to keep up with pressures of modern life and expectation of society. The dream for me is simplicity. Not go off grid totally, but simplicity leading to less stress. Humans are not meant to do or think about the things we do today for such extended periods of time.
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Post by Hobhead on Aug 7, 2021 21:56:11 GMT
I know we’re all supposed to pretend to love it but the Olympics is pretty shit really. A lot of the events are a complete joke but this takes the cake:
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Post by Dick on Aug 19, 2021 11:27:51 GMT
Anyone know anything about HR or have an idea about grievances at work and confidentiality?
It is more workplace bollocks from me again. I mentioned a complaint above, now I haven't hurt anyone, called someone a cunt or fucked anyone I shouldn't have, nothing like that. Even though I'm leaving my work, as is the complainee (unrelated reasons - they got a better job), the grievance is still going ahead.
However, the report of the complaint that I've been sent is in a PDF format, full of redacted information. The controversy is, if you copy and paste the text into something like Word, you can read everything you obviously shouldn't be able to - like witness names, statements, implications for other colleagues - and bypass the redactions.
HR probably think we're still in the office, they could just print this out and send to me and I'd never know who said what.
Does anyone know if I raise this before the morning of - i.e. the morning of the meeting, to throw the hand grenade back at them - if it could impact or disrupt the process? If it just pushes things back to after I leave it would be fab.
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Post by Hoochy on Aug 19, 2021 12:10:15 GMT
Botswana Bantam on Bantamtalk does HR. Slide into his DMs and tell him I sent you, he's my pal.
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Post by Hobhead on Aug 22, 2021 16:37:33 GMT
‘Pig’ starring Nicholas Cage is easily my favourite film that centres around a revenge mission to retrieve a kidnapped truffle-hunting pig.
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Post by Hobhead on Sept 3, 2021 6:40:02 GMT
This is a fact:
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Post by Dick on Sept 3, 2021 20:10:10 GMT
He's also performed at the BBC Proms
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Post by Hoochy on Sept 3, 2021 20:50:37 GMT
He's also performed at the BBC Proms As wanky as jazz. And that's pretty fucking wanky.
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